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Post by dawn on Nov 10, 2021 9:19:08 GMT
My father chose to be buried at a veterans cemetery hours away from where we all lived so we wouldn’t visit him. We did anyway.
I want to be buried in a sheet in the backyard/woods.
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Post by maggiemay on Nov 10, 2021 20:53:42 GMT
Figlet, i disagree that 'it's not up to them', i consider it very disrespectful to not follow their wishes
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Post by maggiemay on Nov 10, 2021 20:55:47 GMT
i wanted a cardboard coffin (for the planet  ) but that is not allowed here, has to be particle board |
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Post by goblins on Nov 11, 2021 0:59:55 GMT
My father chose to be buried at a veterans cemetery hours away from where we all lived so we wouldn’t visit him. We did anyway. I want to be buried in a sheet in the backyard/woods. My father is buried at Fort Snelling. Not because he wanted it as his final resting place. He was married twice. Me and my siblings (1st family) wanted him next to our mother. Second family wanted him next to their mother, in Iowa, for Godsakes! IOWA!!!! So our uncle said to save on fighting he was going to Fort Snelling. Haven't been to see him since he was buried. The father I knew walked out on us when I was six. |
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Post by msdulittle on Nov 11, 2021 2:50:59 GMT
My father chose to be buried at a veterans cemetery hours away from where we all lived so we wouldn’t visit him. We did anyway. I want to be buried in a sheet in the backyard/woods. My father is buried at Fort Snelling. Not because he wanted it as his final resting place. He was married twice. Me and my siblings (1st family) wanted him next to our mother. Second family wanted him next to their mother, in Iowa, for Godsakes! IOWA!!!! So our uncle said to save on fighting he was going to Fort Snelling. Haven't been to see him since he was buried. The father I knew walked out on us when I was six. (((Goblins))) Wish mine had...he was a freaking monster... |
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Post by goblins on Nov 11, 2021 15:42:12 GMT
That is why we are strong women today, MsD!!
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Post by kayoneuu1 on Nov 11, 2021 21:47:59 GMT
Himself says “they” can take whatever bits of him might still be useful and the rest left out in the open somewhere for forensic research (that’s a real thing apparently)
I have told the family I want to be cremated and my ashes buried on the cliff overlooking the ocean and the golf course - my 2 favourite places. I also want a little brass plate left there so any future genealogists in the family will know where I am
(I’m also a registered organ donor)
My FiL left extremely detailed funeral wishes, even down to the music to be played, the readings and the wording of the noice for the paper. I must say it made organising his funeral very easy.
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Post by dalt on Nov 12, 2021 23:10:20 GMT
"Once accepted into the program, Science Care is a no-cost option that includes transportation, cremation, the return of cremated remains and filing of the death certificate." www.sciencecare.com/resources/faq-whole-body-donation-science-care#preThis sounds like the way to go- those science guys can take whatever body parts they find useful- cremate the rest- and return the ashes to my loved ones- without it costing them a dime. Not to mention relieving them of the stress that's involved in arranging "disposal." |
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Post by humanbean on Nov 12, 2021 23:59:46 GMT
When my Dad died. He was cremated.
No service....family came together and celebrated his life and each other.
His ashes are in an urn to be buried with Mom when she goes.
I have a tiny urn just in case something happens to the one in my brothers keep.
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Post by dalt on Nov 13, 2021 15:44:15 GMT
My father is buried at Fort Snelling. Not because he wanted it as his final resting place. He was married twice. Me and my siblings (1st family) wanted him next to our mother. Second family wanted him next to their mother, in Iowa, for Godsakes! IOWA!!!! So our uncle said to save on fighting he was going to Fort Snelling. Haven't been to see him since he was buried. The father I knew walked out on us when I was six. (((Goblins))) Wish mine had...he was a freaking monster... My Dad was the coolest guy I've ever known. I remember going to his office 40+ years ago- in a high rent downtown building. It was way past business hours- and he knew all the janitors by name. How cool is that? He told me to treat the dishwasher with the same respect that I'd extend to the CEO of Google. |
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Post by dalt on Nov 14, 2021 19:25:33 GMT
When my Dad died. He was cremated. No service....family came together and celebrated his life and each other. His ashes are in an urn to be buried with Mom when she goes. I have a tiny urn just in case something happens to the one in my brothers keep. My Dad died almost 10 years ago- and my brother- a few years ago. Both were cremated- and we placed some of their ashes in stainless steel pill cylindrical containers. "Mini urns-" and gave them to all their friends and family. The rest of their ashes are stored in the basement. They both loved travel- experiencing new things- and I always travel with some of their ashes. A sprinkling of their ashes are in Arizona, Illinois, Mississippi, Alabama, Louisiana, Tennessee, Oklahoma... a NIN concert in Las Vegas-the border control crossing in Nogales- the shores of the Salton Sea... There's still lot's of ashes stashed in the basement. Enough for 100's of new experiences. |
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Post by dalt on Nov 14, 2021 19:57:25 GMT
The "afterlife" is a complicated subject. I think Count Chocula will embrace those who "love without expectation." It's OK to be shunned by the one's that you're trying to help.
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Post by figlet on Nov 15, 2021 5:45:55 GMT
Figlet, i disagree that 'it's not up to them', i consider it very disrespectful to not follow their wishes That's fair enough, maggie. Two different views on that topic. |
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Post by dalt on Nov 15, 2021 14:21:18 GMT
Figlet, i disagree that 'it's not up to them', i consider it very disrespectful to not follow their wishes That's fair enough, maggie. Two different views on that topic. My Dad told us to throw his ashes in the trash... and my (younger) brother died suddenly in his sleep. Didn't really know what his wishes were- as we figured we had many more years before having that conversation. Don't know if going against my Dad's wishes are a bad thing- but it makes me feel good to sprinkle his ashes in the Grand Canyon and Bourbon Street. It's my thing, and am pretty sure Dad would approve. |
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Post by dalt on Nov 15, 2021 15:14:01 GMT
The person who dies with the most smile lines wins the race. Some people thrive on travel- others are most happy staying at home.
I really don't care what happens to my body after I die. Don't believe in fairy tale Jesus- the Big Guy who places us in a most excellent afterlife- after this life... or something like that...
Then again, I no longer believe that the Tooth Fairy leaves money under my pillow- or Thor is the God of Thunder.
The here and now is the only tangible, "Heaven." Best to make the best of it.
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Post by kingcrab on Dec 10, 2021 2:02:12 GMT
As hard as some people work their entire life to create wealth, and gather possessions, I’ve yet to go to a funeral where that is mentioned.
Always … he/she coached, was a good father/mother…
No mention of the strip mall they owned,
Or the Fortune 500 company they started…
Priorities
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Post by maggiemay on Dec 10, 2021 3:56:42 GMT
are you saying that the 5 fireplaces won't get a mention? sacrilege
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) but that is not allowed here, has to be particle board
